Ah, its spring again. Everyone is pair bonding. Except these days 99% are not trying to produce off spring. So what drives us, besides the biological imperative, to find another to spend our lives with? I would have to get an abacus out to count all the people I know who are in relationships and marriages and are absolutely miserable. So should we throw the baby out with the bath water? Is “love” as we know it an exercise in futility? In all likelihood, I’d say yes. Truly how many people are happy in a marriage? A happily married couple is by far the exception and not the rule.

I have always said that if every plane that left the terminal crashed 50% of the time, I would start taking the bus everywhere. You may not know me, so you probably think I’m some heartless calculating bastard. The truth is I am about as emotional as a Lifetime movie. I cry, I care for others; I feed ducks and get turtles out of the road. This begs the question why I am so bitter on love. Have I been hurt? Sure, who hasn’t?

I’m just done with the whole concept. That is all it really is. Love is an isolated event that you can feel for a moment or several moments until ultimately that feeling either fades away or one or both of you get hurt and the bitterness ensues. So yes, marriages do sometimes work in our society, but they are usually the result of two people vowing to make it a success no matter what the cost or effort. This notion of love that we get from Hollywood just isn’t real.

I’m sure we all have a soul mate somewhere (right). If you go by this definition, then the concept is impossible. Seriously, how can you have every one of these factors? You might have one or two and maybe even all three for a short while. Can two people exist as a single entity? I suppose it is possible, but I don’t think its likely.